On loss

Two of our RDFL friends lost people they loved unexpectedly this month. Abruptly. Without warning.

One of the weird things about Facebook's news feed is that it doesn't stop when this occurs.  It continues its stream of life as it happens.  The happy and the sad.  The delightful and the tragic.  All of it flowing along in discordant juxtaposition.

Grief heightens your vision--a magnifying glass that zooms in on the incongruity of the happy and the unthinkable.

And we hate being left unable to resolve.
Living in the place where the world doesn't work. Where nothing fits anymore.

Donald Miller writes, "I never liked jazz music because jazz music doesn't resolve. . . . I used to not like God because God didn't resolve. But that was before any of this happened."

There is a "head part" to grief that can make us crazy.  The knowledge that the world we live in is different than we believed it to be.  And while the love of friends can help with the pain of the heart parts, the head part is largely dealt with alone.  Don't let it make you crazy.  Learn to be okay with the unokay. And know that eventually the magnifying glass rights itself, and the act of grief will loosen it's laser focus on the loss and begin to highlight the beautiful.
© Random Cathy
Maira Gall