Sometimes it comes down to who you want to be

If you live long enough, you will be blindsided by pain.

It may be a debilitating illness...
Emotional or sexual abuse...
Rejection by someone you deeply love...
Financial crisis...
Death...

I know people living in situations so complex and so outside of the bounds of belief that none of the counseling books even scratch the surface.

And yet, at the end of the day the people choose who they want to be. They either let the pain fuel who they are becoming, or they get stuck and the pain becomes the definition of who they are.

The problem with pain is that it feels unique to you. And if you share it with others they never quite "get" exactly what you are experiencing...no matter how many details you include or the words you use. And yet, pain is universal....and rarely heals without connection to others.

Don't get stuck. Walk through the process. And let those who love you try to help...even when the efforts are bumbling and don't take the pain away.
© Random Cathy
Maira Gall