Change requires change
Of course, it is easy to see that line of conversation in a friend's story. Much harder to identify it in our own thinking.
Whatever life we are living right now is giving us the results that we have. If we want different results, then the life we are living has to change.
I don't know if you've seen the show Tiny House Nation but it chronicles the stories of families downsizing into homes often 1/10th the size of their original. The host helps them work through getting rid of their stuff and often has to emphasize over and over that the way they lived before has to radically change for them to be able to pull this off. Life in 2,500 sf is a different life than life in 250 sf.
The bigger the change we want to make in our lives the bigger the change will be required in the structure of our life, the way we think and the habits we do daily. No one is going to walk up with a magic wand and change us. We have to make the choice and take the steps.
Is there a change you want that you are having trouble achieving? It may be that more is required of you to get the results you want.