Of talkative ghosts...

As I sat in Donald Miller's session at the Echo conference this week, I felt like every word was for me.

He started by telling us about his "ghost" who sits in his living room smoking cigarettes, watching TV and eating Doritos. Don's ghost tells him his ideas are stupid. That what he does is pointless. That life is futile.

It seems I have a "ghost" too. Only my ghost is different to Don's ghost. My ghost is critical of how I look, keeps a detailed checklist of my personal failures, and points out all of the ways I am "less than."

I've been wrestling with her a lot lately.

The thing is I was actually pretty successful in silencing her for a long time. I treated everything she said as lies. As it turns out, lies are pretty easy to fight so, about a year ago she changed her strategy and started talking truth. Well, mostly truth, but truth in the most negative possible way. Edited truth that only keeps track of the bad stuff and leaves out every bit of the good.

I hate the ghost.

It occurs to me that most of the Dale Carnegies, Tony Robbins and Oprah Winfreys of the world work to teach you how to silence the ghost. In some ways the church does too. In fact, I think somewhere in the back of my mind I thought that if I could just find the right combination of steps or memorize the right verse of scripture, that she would shut up. But you know what happens? She actually uses that stuff against me. Tells me how poorly I do at following the "5 steps to whatever."

In his talk, Don said that we've been taught in the church that we have a "God shaped hole" inside of us that we need Jesus to come fill and that once He does we feel complete. (I've heard this in church too.) Then Don said something unexpected. He pointed out that that philosophy is a marketing statement and not a theological one.

What happens when you don't feel complete? When the ghost is right? Is the "product" bad? Did it fail? Did you fail because you didn't use it right? Did you just not have "enough faith?"

When I was younger--and maybe even now--a lot of the "positioning statement" for Jesus was that He would come in and fix your life. The thing is that doesn't happen. Life doesn't become a song. It remains very, very human. With all of the sorrow and rage and brokenness that entails.

When did we trade all of the things that Jesus said about the "kingdom of heaven" for a cheaper product? When did we decide to go for the $19.95 fix?

Bringing heaven to earth isn't fast. Jesus describes it as yeast working its way through dough as it is kneaded or a mustard seed growing into a large tree. (Though I have to confess I don't understand why God didn't just zap it like in a Disney movie.)

Somewhere along the line, we made Christianity about us. About fixing the individual. What if that isn't the point? What if it is about the redemption of the world and we just get to be little parts of the story? Little places where the yeast gets moved through the dough or where a leaf appears on the branch? What if the real kingdom of heaven is in the hundreds of moments we have every day to choose love, joy, peace, patience, kindness...all of those things that run counter-cultural to the world around us.

What if the real way of silencing the ghost isn't in fixing all of the things on her list, but in pouring energy into living my part of the story?


D Herrod said...

Once again well said. I enjoy your writing style much better than Miller's.

Linda Seid Frembes said...

Great post. I like the concept of the ghost. I had always thought mine was more like a gremlin - always in the shadows, whispering in my ear when I wasn't present in the moment, sneaking doubt into my heart.

Cathy Hutchison said...

The thing I most hate about my ghost is that she is sooooo much prettier than me. She is smarter and funnier...works out everyday and points all of that out relentlessly.

At least Don Miller said his ghost was overweight and sat around watching TV. No pressure there.

Anonymous said...

Very good posting Cathy! I agree that christianity isn't about me, you, or us feeling better but more about what we are doing to bring a little of the kingdom of God to others. Also, seeing Jesus and God's kingdom in others. When working with new converts at my church we ask them when and where was the last time you saw Jesus in others? It sure gets people to thinking about the kingdom of God being here on earth and not just inside ourselves.

Post a Comment

© Random Cathy
Maira Gall