My mom has been in the hospital for over a week with an infection that her body is struggling to fight. Dad had surgery the Monday before and two days later was calling an ambulance to get mom.It's been a very long week for both of them.
It's hard to watch your parents age. To watch them manage illness when it
isn't possible to cure it.
Wish I had something insightful to say, but I don't.
Sigh.
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It's okay to not be okay and to not have the solution. Being present and supportive is sometimes all we can do. I'll keep you parents in my prayers. Hang in there!
Amen, Ashley!
But of course...easier said than done! Such a HUGE life shift when parents "wane." Besides grief for them, and for the loss of who they "used to be", it opens the whole can of worms regarding one's own impending aging and mortality! What I refer to as "ITATIS"..."Is-That-All-There-Is Syndrome"! Now that can be a cold hard reality check!
It takes a lot of time, friends, wrestling with God, and just raw mind acrobatics to get to a good place with it (and maybe a glass or two of wine too)! I'm still far from "there" in playing out my own parents' struggle-to-age!
Bottom line, Ashley's right...be at peace with not being at peace. Be present and supportive. Take lots of time to vent with, or just have fun with friends and other family members. Talk to God a lot. Allow lots of time to reconcile it all in yourself. And most importantly, have a glass of wine now and then...maybe even right now!
P.S. Isn't it a problem when a comment is longer than the post? Hmm...and aren't I making it worse by posting 2x in a row? Hmmm... Maybe you hit close to home? Hmmm... I'll stop talking now.
It's not easy...not at all. HUGS to you and your parents
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